Love is a waste of time...?

Or is it? Maybe… I know I am not the most qualified person for this topic but hey, it’s my blog.

I have seen people ‘falling in love’ during their school days. And I am talking about the serious commitment, many a times in college too. But I guess college romance is a little more understandable. As for me, I don’t get it. You don’t have any kind of clarity on where are you going to end up and here you are ready to commit yourself to a person for all your life. You can’t commit yourself to studies but yes a romantic commitment is totally fine.

I am not saying that anything is wrong in it after all it’s an individual’s choice. I just don’t see the point. Yes, it looks totally pointless to me. (Maybe because I haven’t met “The One” yet) Why do people get committed?  The usual timeline goes like this: they like a person, they approach them. If accepted, a lovey-dovey romantic periods begins, could be a year, two maybe four. Sooner or later life happens and most of them don’t survive life. Some go a step further, try long distance. With all the whatsapps and vibers and skype it’s not really as difficult as writing messages on the back of the train for your girlfriend in the village and hoping it does not rain.(Some Rishi Kapoor movie, I don’t remember the name.) Few survive this long distance but most falter.

Is it for fun? Or Experience? Or maybe time-pass? (Time pass is quite a strong word but yes, I have heard of that being reason too) If any of these three is your reason, then I guess we are very different. I hope experience does not become a factor; I am having a hard time getting the job experience as it is.

I ask again, Why? Especially in India where parents are ‘the’ deciding factors in a person’s life (usually), all the romance takes place keeping the family in dark. If you can’t share your life with your family, what’s the point? (I am using the word point a lot; need to find some other word for it) Everyone wants to get a girlfriend/boyfriend but only if the parents don’t get to know. Always you fall for the person you know no one will approve of. Even if parents approve, there comes the pandit ji with all the caste, religion and  gotra talk to worsen the case. Going against all this makes you feel like a rebel who does not want to let anyone get a whiff that he/she is a rebel. It’s funny really.

The family ties are so strong, you can’t go against them. That’s criminal. But letting the girl/boy you love go is not (Sarcasm intended). BAM! All the ‘for life’ promises are gone in a second as soon as your parents or your partners have made clear of their disapproval. Now, there arise three cases-

1. You go full rebel for your love leaving your parents but your partners turns out to be not such a brave heart. Needless to say you don’t end up happily ever after.
2.  Both are too much into family values and can’t go against your parents, again not ending up together.
3.  Both of you go rebel and run away to live together.  Now the ball is in your parent’s court. They might love you so much that they accept you back or they might go all honor killing mode on you (Not funny).
4.  There is also a case where you go to your partner’s house and pull out a hand pump from the ground to prove your love but that’s extremely rare.

I have seen even very serious love get over because the parents don’t approve. What more? The guy is getting married soon to a girl he hasn’t even seen yet. (True story)

To all those lovers out there, keep going. The world need more love. As far as I am concerned, I am still waiting to be swept off my feet and feel that special emotion.  To “The one”, if you are reading this, I am in Chennai and all my contact info is there on the blog. Don’t hesitate.  :P

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